i have discovered that the more i learn about this lifestyle the more i learn about myself. its funny how things that most people in he nilla world thinks this is so "un-normal". they do not undertand the trust and honesty that is involved with this lifestyle. im sure if they did there would be less divorces and many more whole family units. mlm's being very patient yet strict when he has to be with me. soon i will have a bedtime that i will have to adhere to. which is a wonderful thing.